We’re going to talk about something that’s so powerful, yet also so underrated; that is the power of your words. The first step to being able to create success using the power of your words is to start listening and being conscious of the words that you use in your life. In this episode, I dive into why changing your words can change your life and biz.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- What your confirmation bias is and how it works in your life
- How the thoughts you have affect the different areas of your life
- And how you can turn your language around and turn that old language into something more empowered
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In this episode, we are talking about something so powerful yet so underrated, when it comes to creating success, not only in your business but in your life as well. And that is the power of your words, the power of your voice, the power of your language.
Being Consciously Aware of How You Speak About Yourself
So, the first step to creating success in your business and your life by using the power of your words, is to actually start being consciously aware of how you speak about yourself. Actually consciously hearing the words that are already coming out of your mouth, about who you are as a person, how much success you have, all of those things. You have to be conscious of the words you use.
Because, here’s the thing, if you are constantly putting yourself down, talking yourself out of things, saying things like:
- “I can’t do that,”
- Or “I don’t have half as much success as her,”
- Or “I’ll never be able to do it,”
- Or “I’m not good enough.” (This thought is really common for entrepreneurs to say. A lot of entrepreneurs say, “I’m not good enough,” right?)
What Confirmation Bias Is and How It Proves You Right
But here’s the thing, every single human being on this planet, including you and I, have something called a confirmation bias.
This is a part of your unconscious mind. So, the part of your mind that you are currently breathing through right now. You aren’t consciously going, “Okay, breathe in, breathe out.” That’s your unconscious mind. So, inside your unconscious mind is something called a confirmation bias. And what this is, is basically a part of the brain that is out to prove you right.
It’s out to prove you right every single time you say, or think something.
So, for example, when you say, “I can’t do that, because I’m not good enough,” you are literally confirming to your confirmation bias in your unconscious mind that that’s correct. You are confirming that you can’t do that thing, because you aren’t good enough.
Your Confirmation Bias Will Try to Prove You Right
Your confirmation bias will try to find as many examples or collect as much proof and as much evidence as physically possible. Proof that you can’t do that thing. That you aren’t good enough. That is literally how the confirmation bias works, right?
So, the things that we say about ourselves actually do affect the results that we see in life.
Because the thoughts that you have, affect the feelings that you have, which affects the actions that you take, which also affects the results that you see.
So if you’re constantly telling yourself, I can’t do that, or I’m not good enough, or I’m not worthy or deserving of having that, or you know, another really great one that we all seem to say is, “I’m not like her. She has x. She’s so pretty. She’s so smart. She’s so funny. She’s naturally talented,” right?
You’re putting those people on a pedestal and you’re saying, “That’s not me.” You’re disassociating yourself from those things. And again, your confirmation bias is going to find proof of that.
Turning Your Thoughts Around
The second step after you are consciously aware of how you speak about yourself when you’re actually saying, “Oh, wow, I just said I’m not good enough. I need to turn that around.” That’s the second step.
Once you’re consciously aware of the words that you’re using, the language that you’re using, everything that you’re saying about yourself, you need to then turn it around.
And like I always say to all of my clients, just flip it on its head, right? If you say, “I can’t do that, because I’m not good enough,” turn that around and say, “I can do that, because I am good enough.”
So, we’re actually taking the old belief or the old limiting belief and turning it around. You may have heard of taking that old language that you used and turning it upside down into something more positive, something more powerful, right? Something more empowered, because that’s all you need to shift into the state of a successful business owner. So, instead of saying, “I can’t do it,” or “I’m not good enough,” like I said, change it to, “I can do anything I set my mind to. I’ve got this. I’m a machine. I’m incredible. I’m empowered. I can do anything. I can achieve anything, I can have anything. I can be anyone I want.” So, turn it around, flip the negative thoughts into positive thoughts and then into positive language.
Another thing I wanted to say is if someone compliments you, don’t brush it off. Actually thank that person and soak in that love.
I think this is something that especially us females have conditioned ourselves to. As soon as someone says, “Oh, you look beautiful,” or “Wow! You’re doing so well in business. I’m so proud of you. That’s incredible.” We often turn it back on them and say, “Oh, no, stop it.” You know you say things like “Oh, this old dress. This is just, you know, something from the OP shop.” Or if it’s success in business you’ll say, “Oh, yeah, but look how well you’re doing in business, you’re killing it.” Right?
If someone compliments you and you immediately shut that down by saying something like that and then putting it back on them, or just shutting yourself down completely, again, that’s negative language towards yourself. You need to turn those words around.
So, change it and say, “Thank you, so much! That means a lot to me. I really do work hard in my business and I put a lot of time and energy into it. That means the world to me that you’ve noticed,” right? And then soak up that love because that’s really, really important.
Using Affirmations to Change Your Unconscious Mind
And the final thing that I wanted to say to you ladies is another thing that you can do to consciously change your unconscious mind. To change that confirmation bias inside of you to believe that you are incredible, that you are unstoppable, that you are limitless, empowered, motivated. All of those things, right? To change your unconscious mind, you can use affirmations.
I’m sure you’ve probably heard people talk about affirmations, all the time. And you’re like, “Yeah, I tried them. But it was just weird. They had me shouting ‘I love you’ in the mirror, and writing with lipstick over the mirror.” That is not what I’m here to say. Those things can help. But if that’s not your jam, that’s totally fine.
What I’m suggesting is that you choose some affirmations that really make you feel like you’re living your best life. Choose some affirmations that are specific to the areas of your life or your business that you want to change.
For example, if you are struggling with comparing yourself to others, and that’s you being consciously aware of the fact that you’re saying “I’m not as good as her because she’s so smart,” right? When you turn that around and you say, “I am as good as her because I am smart and I can achieve anything.” Turn those new thoughts into an affirmation that you then use daily. And the important thing about affirmations is that they’re in first-person. So, say “I am,” not “You are,” or “Everyone is.” You have to use I am or I have or I can. So, it needs to start with an I or my, and then you also need to make sure that it is in a positive state.
When you say your affirmations, they need to be in first-person and in a positive form, right? Not “I don’t need to worry about anything.” That’s an affirmation but it’s probably not as great as what it could be. Rather than “I don’t need to worry about anything,” I would say something like “I can achieve anything.” So, make it as positive as you can.
And then when you say your affirmations, I would highly recommend saying them daily, if not like 50 times a day, 100 times a day, a thousand times a day, or however many times you need to say them to get the new positive thought programmed into your unconscious mind.
And say your affirmations with meaning. And this is the number one tip in order to have affirmations that actually work and affirmations that actually go deep into your unconscious mind and program.
Imagine a computer. Your unconscious mind is full of programming. And you want affirmations that are going to go deep into your programming, deep into your hard drive (like a computer hard drive), and actually stay there forever. To the point where you are saying your affirmations and you’re like “Duh, I already know this. I already believe this to be true. I don’t even need to say this because I know that that is my truth.” That’s the point you want to get to.
So, once you’ve become consciously aware of how you’re speaking about yourself when you’ve flipped those words and that language on its head, and you’ve said it in a more positive tone, then use those as your affirmations every single day.
There are apps that you can get on your phone if you want to count how many times a day you’re saying your affirmations. But as a general rule of thumb, I would say them at least 50 times a day. I also like to have notifications on my iPhone that tell me when I need to say my affirmations out loud. So, you can even put little affirmation reminders in your phone, or alarms and stuff like that.
Just make sure that you’re saying that with meaning, as well. If there’s no emotion behind it, and if you truly don’t believe it, then it’s not going to work. So, make sure that those affirmations you choose, that you have meaning and that you say them with meaning and you say them with emotion. Otherwise, it’s pointless.
I hope that you’ve loved learning how to use the power of your words to create more success, so much more freedom in your business. I love you guys so much, and I will speak to you very soon.
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